{"id":5120,"date":"2026-05-09T12:50:57","date_gmt":"2026-05-09T10:50:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/?p=5120"},"modified":"2026-05-09T12:51:14","modified_gmt":"2026-05-09T10:51:14","slug":"co-si-pomyslia-susedia","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/co-si-pomyslia-susedia\/","title":{"rendered":"\u010co si pomyslia susedia?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Autorka: Veroni Gyenge \/ Ilustr\u00e1cia: Lukas Lee<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Text sme prv\u00fd raz publikovali v \u010d\u00edsle Zima 2025.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Na juhu Slovenska sa \u017eije medzi dvoma jazykmi, medzi dvoma kult\u00farami. Ja som vyr\u00e1stla ako Ma\u010farka a to bola moja hlavn\u00e1 identita. Od detstva som c\u00edtila, \u017ee s t\u00fdm, kam som sa narodila, prich\u00e1dza aj zodpovednos\u0165. \u010cas\u0165 m\u0148a patr\u00ed m\u00f4jmu n\u00e1rodu. Je aj na mne, aby n\u00e1s asimil\u00e1cia nezjedla, aby na\u0161a kult\u00fara napredovala a nezanikla v tichu v\u00e4\u010d\u0161iny.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">V na\u0161ej rodine nikdy nebola ot\u00e1zka, do akej \u0161koly p\u00f4jde die\u0165a. Ma\u010farsk\u00e1 bola samozrejmos\u0165ou. Po druhej svetovej vojne, ke\u010f prezident Edvard Bene\u0161 vydal dekr\u00e9ty, ktor\u00e9 pripravili Ma\u010farov a Nemcov o ob\u010dianstvo a ozna\u010dili ich za kolekt\u00edvnych vinn\u00edkov vojny, sa na juhu za\u010dalo obdobie pres\u00edd\u013eovania.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ma\u010farsk\u00e9 rodiny dostali takzvan\u00fd \u201ebiely papier\u201c, \u00faradn\u00fd rozkaz na vys\u0165ahovanie a zhabanie majetku. V na\u0161ej rodine tak\u00fd papier dostali tie\u017e. Na ob\u00e1lku, v ktorej pri\u0161iel, pradedo protestne nap\u00edsal: \u201eNarodili sme sa tu, zostaneme aj tu. Felvid\u00e9k je n\u00e1\u0161 domov!\u201c To bol v\u017edy n\u00e1\u0161 z\u00e1klad. Na tom st\u00e1la na\u0161a identita a hrdos\u0165, ktor\u00fa sme si odovzd\u00e1vali \u010falej.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u00edtila som sa in\u00e1, ale t\u00fa inakos\u0165 som vedela vysvetli\u0165 svojou n\u00e1rodnou identitou. Bola tak\u00e1 siln\u00e1, \u017ee som ani nepomyslela na to, \u017ee by som mohla by\u0165 in\u00e1 e\u0161te in\u00fdm sp\u00f4sobom. Dlho som si hovorila, \u017ee t\u00e1to jedna inakos\u0165 sta\u010d\u00ed. \u017de viac probl\u00e9mov u\u017e netreba, \u017ee u\u017e som dos\u0165 komplikovan\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">V na\u0161ej dedine sme vedeli o zop\u00e1r gejoch. To bolo v\u0161etko, \u010do sa o tejto t\u00e9me spom\u00ednalo. Hovorilo sa o nich tak ako o R\u00f3moch: \u201eJe to R\u00f3m, ale slu\u0161n\u00fd.\u201c \u2013 \u201eJe to lesba, ale aspo\u0148 vtipn\u00e1.\u201c Ja som bola \u201eza pr\u00e1va\u201c, ale len v\u0161eobecne, na dia\u013eku. Nikdy mi nenapadlo, \u017ee sa to m\u00f4\u017ee t\u00fdka\u0165 aj m\u0148a. Myslela som si, \u017ee ak si kv\u00edr, c\u00edti\u0161 to ako nie\u010do jasn\u00e9, \u010do \u0165a definuje. A\u017e nesk\u00f4r som pochopila, \u017ee to nie je pocit cudzieho v tebe. Je to len \u010das\u0165 teba, ktor\u00e1 dlho \u010dakala, k\u00fdm ju pust\u00ed\u0161 von.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ke\u010f som za\u010dala c\u00edti\u0165, \u017ee sa mi p\u00e1\u010dia aj diev\u010dat\u00e1, nevedela som, kam to zaradi\u0165. Brala som to ako nie\u010do prechodn\u00e9. Nie preto, \u017ee by som to odmietala, len som si nevedela predstavi\u0165, ako by to mohlo vyzera\u0165. Zdalo sa mi, \u017ee na juhu na to nie je priestor. Nie preto, \u017ee by tu kv\u00edr \u013eudia neboli, ale preto, \u017ee o nich nikto nehovor\u00ed. Ml\u010danie, uzavretos\u0165 je tu s\u00fa\u010das\u0165ou kult\u00fary, ochrann\u00fd \u0161t\u00edt aj klietka z\u00e1rove\u0148.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nevedela som si predstavi\u0165, \u017ee by som niekedy povedala mame, \u017ee sa mi p\u00e1\u010dia aj diev\u010dat\u00e1. Zdalo sa mi, \u017ee by to naru\u0161ilo nie\u010do, \u010do medzi nami funguje pr\u00e1ve preto, \u017ee o niektor\u00fdch veciach ml\u010d\u00edme. A u\u017e v\u00f4bec nie, \u017ee by sa o tom dozvedel dedo. Pred n\u00edm sme o t\u00fdchto t\u00e9mach nikdy nehovorili.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">_<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sedeli sme v kuchyni ako v\u017edy, ke\u010f pr\u00eddem domov. Mama um\u00fdvala riad, ja som utierala. Zrazu zo m\u0148a vy\u0161lo: \u201eMama, pam\u00e4t\u00e1\u0161 sa na moju kamar\u00e1tku? Ona nebola iba kamar\u00e1tka. M\u00e1m rada aj baby.\u201c Plakala som. Uis\u0165ovala som ju, \u017ee za to nem\u00f4\u017eem. \u017de sa ni\u010d nemen\u00ed. Mama ml\u010dala. \u201eVeronika, ja ti na to teraz neviem \u010do poveda\u0165.\u201c Zrazu sa mi zatiahla \u010dierna clona pred o\u010dami. Vedela som, \u017ee v nej kri\u010d\u00ed ve\u010dn\u00e1 ot\u00e1zka: \u010co si pomyslia susedia? Myslela som si, \u017ee som v\u0161etko pokazila. B\u00e1la som sa. E\u0161te som nebola pripraven\u00e1 by\u0165 bez mojej mamy. Ale na\u0161\u0165astie som ani nemusela. Len ja som mala \u010das pripravi\u0165 sa na to, \u017ee t\u00fato vetu raz poviem. Ona nemala \u010das pripravi\u0165 sa na to, \u017ee ju raz bude po\u010du\u0165.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bolo to pred dvoma rokmi. St\u00e1le sa u\u010d\u00edme, aj ona, aj ja. M\u00e1me za sebou kri\u010danie, slzy, sopel. Preplakan\u00e9 noci, ke\u010f sa zrazu zmen\u00ed\u0161 sp\u00e4\u0165 na die\u0165a a v\u0161etko, \u010do chce\u0161, je, aby mama pri\u0161la, objala \u0165a a povedala, \u017ee to bude v poriadku. \u017de nie si sama. Nie v\u017edy n\u00e1m v\u0161ak vesm\u00edr vyjde v \u00fastrety. Niekedy si naozaj sama. A pr\u00e1ve preto potrebuje\u0161 komunitu, ktor\u00e1 \u0165a ch\u00e1pe a podr\u017e\u00ed, k\u00fdm to ostatn\u00ed rozd\u00fdchaj\u00fa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Na juhu vstupuj\u00fa do hry aj faktory, ktor\u00e9 v\u00e4\u010d\u0161ine \u013eud\u00ed ani nenapadn\u00fa. Nen\u00e1vis\u0165 prich\u00e1dza z dvoch str\u00e1n naraz a propaganda obklopuje \u013eud\u00ed, z Ma\u010farska e\u0161te nebezpe\u010dnej\u0161ia, e\u0161te hlu\u010dnej\u0161ia. Boj\u00edm sa, \u010do to urobilo s na\u0161ou komunitou. Budeme o tom vedie\u0165 hovori\u0165 s rodinou? Bud\u00fa sa p\u00fdta\u0165? Alebo u\u017e uverili v\u0161etk\u00e9mu, \u010do po\u010duli v telev\u00edzii?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">D\u00e1 sa milova\u0165 cel\u00fdm srdcom a&nbsp;z\u00e1rove\u0148 pritom spochyb\u0148ova\u0165 vlastn\u00fa komunitu, v ktorej si vyr\u00e1stla? M\u00f4\u017eem by\u0165 nahnevan\u00e1 na svoje okolie, \u017ee ako men\u0161ina neprejavuje v\u00e4\u010d\u0161\u00ed z\u00e1ujem pochopi\u0165 in\u00fa men\u0161inu? Ak men\u0161ina sama nevie prepoji\u0165 svoje sk\u00fasenosti, napr\u00edklad to, ak\u00e9 je \u017ei\u0165 ako ob\u010dan druhej \u010di tretej kateg\u00f3rie, ak\u00e9 je, ke\u010f ti ber\u00fa pocit bezpe\u010dia z domova, ke\u010f o tvojich veciach rozhoduj\u00fa \u013eudia, ktor\u00ed sa ani nepok\u00fasia \u0165a pochopi\u0165, ako potom m\u00f4\u017eeme \u010daka\u0165, \u017ee v\u00e4\u010d\u0161ina bude solid\u00e1rna s in\u00fdmi?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mnohokr\u00e1t som sa sklamala v komunite, z ktorej poch\u00e1dzam. Najviac v t\u00fdch, ktor\u00ed n\u00e1s maj\u00fa zastupova\u0165. Politicky akoby sme uviazli medzi dvomi mlynsk\u00fdmi kame\u0148mi. Nechceme voli\u0165 ma\u010farsk\u00e9 strany ovplyvnen\u00e9 Orb\u00e1nom, ale len ony dok\u00e1\u017eu pomenova\u0165 na\u0161e men\u0161inov\u00e9 po\u017eiadavky. No o kv\u00edr komunitu sa nezauj\u00edmaj\u00fa a oh\u00fdbaj\u00fa sa pod\u013ea toho, kto pon\u00fakne viac. A potom s\u00fa tu v\u00e4\u010d\u0161inov\u00e9 strany, ktor\u00e9 sa s\u00edce tv\u00e1ria otvorene, hlavne pre hlasy, ale nikdy sa \u00faprimne nesna\u017eili pochopi\u0165, kto sme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Na juhu som sa c\u00edtila sama. Nebola tu komunita, kde by som mohla pre\u017e\u00edva\u0165 aj t\u00fato svoju str\u00e1nku. Ch\u00fdbali mi slov\u00e1, ch\u00fdbali mi vzory. Nebola tu u\u010dite\u013eka, nebol tu dospel\u00fd, kto by mi povedal: \u201eNie si sama.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dnes sa sna\u017e\u00edm by\u0165 t\u00fdm \u010dlovekom, ku ktor\u00e9mu by moje vn\u00fatorn\u00e9 die\u0165a be\u017ealo po pomoc. Preto dnes ja hovor\u00edm mlad\u00fdm: \u201eNie ste sami.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ver\u00edm, \u017ee raz sa o t\u00fdchto t\u00e9mach nebude hovori\u0165 s obavami, ale s re\u0161pektom. \u017de na\u0161e pr\u00edbehy nebud\u00fa o odvahe, ale o be\u017enom \u017eivote. \u017de ke\u010f poviem \u201esom z juhu\u201c, nebude to znamena\u0165 len, \u017ee som z men\u0161iny, ale aj to, \u017ee som z miesta, kde sa \u013eudia u\u010dia prij\u00edma\u0165 rozmanitos\u0165 ako s\u00fa\u010das\u0165 vlastnej hist\u00f3rie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ver\u00edm, \u017ee raz sa u\u017e nebudeme u\u010di\u0165 len pre\u017ei\u0165 v na\u0161ej krajine, ale \u017ei\u0165 naplno.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Szabadon<\/em>. Slobodne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Autorka: Veroni Gyenge \/ Ilustr\u00e1cia: Lukas Lee Text sme prv\u00fd raz publikovali v \u010d\u00edsle Zima 2025. Na juhu Slovenska sa \u017eije medzi dvoma jazykmi, medzi dvoma kult\u00farami. Ja som vyr\u00e1stla ako Ma\u010farka a to bola moja hlavn\u00e1 identita. Od detstva som c\u00edtila, \u017ee s t\u00fdm, kam som sa narodila, prich\u00e1dza aj zodpovednos\u0165. \u010cas\u0165 m\u0148a patr\u00ed <a href=\"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/co-si-pomyslia-susedia\/\" class=\"more-link\">&#8230;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":5147,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[261,257,6],"tags":[266,682,674,138,408],"class_list":["post-5120","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-komentare-a-analyzy","category-literatura","category-pribehy-lgbti-ludi","tag-from-qys","tag-kralova-nad-vahom","tag-kvir-bedeker","tag-pribeh","tag-slovensko"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5120","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5120"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5120\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5121,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5120\/revisions\/5121"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5147"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5120"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5120"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5120"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}