{"id":4760,"date":"2025-07-12T16:33:25","date_gmt":"2025-07-12T14:33:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/?p=4760"},"modified":"2025-07-12T16:33:42","modified_gmt":"2025-07-12T14:33:42","slug":"ked-dospeli-neprijimaju-duhove-deti-dovod-preco-dalej-zit-musia-hladat-samy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/ked-dospeli-neprijimaju-duhove-deti-dovod-preco-dalej-zit-musia-hladat-samy\/","title":{"rendered":"Ke\u010f dospel\u00ed neprij\u00edmaj\u00fa d\u00fahov\u00e9 deti, d\u00f4vod, pre\u010do \u010falej \u017ei\u0165, musia h\u013eada\u0165 samy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Autor: Marek Morav\u010d\u00edk \/ Ilustr\u00e1cia:\u00a0Vikt\u00f3ria Szab\u00f3ov\u00e1<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Text sme prv\u00fd raz publikovali v \u010d\u00edsle Jar 2025.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Volal sa Martin, poch\u00e1dzal z \u0164ahanoviec na v\u00fdchode Slovenska a ako trin\u00e1s\u0165ro\u010dn\u00fd vo febru\u00e1ri ukon\u010dil svoj \u017eivot skokom pod vlak. Rozhodnutiu pod\u013ea \u013eud\u00ed z jeho okolia predch\u00e1dzalo aj \u0161ikanovanie za jeho orient\u00e1ciu a v\u00fdzor.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

S podobn\u00fdm pr\u00edpadom z opa\u010dnej strany sa vo svojej praxi stretol Z\u00e1hor\u00e1k Timotej \u0160ef\u010dovi\u010d, ktor\u00fd pracuje v online poradni pre LGBTI+ \u013eud\u00ed v Prahe. Oslovil ho jeden\u00e1s\u0165ro\u010dn\u00fd chlapec, ktor\u00fd sa s n\u00edm radil, ako poveda\u0165 svojmu spolu\u017eiakovi, \u017ee sa mu p\u00e1\u010di.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00edsali si spolu tri mesiace. Po dlh\u0161ej odmlke mu potom nap\u00edsala klientova matka, ktor\u00e1 mu ozn\u00e1mila, \u017ee si jej die\u0165a vzalo \u017eivot.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

V men\u0161inovom strese<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u201eNa vrchole puberty som sa dost\u00e1val a\u017e k samovra\u017eedn\u00fdm my\u0161lienkam. Zo v\u0161etk\u00e9ho najviac som sa b\u00e1l odmietnutia zo strany svojej najbli\u017e\u0161ej rodiny,\u201c p\u00ed\u0161e o sebe Timotej \u0160ef\u010dovi\u010d na \u010deskom port\u00e1li sbarvouven.cz<\/a>, ktor\u00fd sl\u00fa\u017ei aj ako anonymn\u00e1 online porad\u0148a pre LGBTI+ \u013eud\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eM\u00f4j jeden\u00e1s\u0165ro\u010dn\u00fd klient sa mi zd\u00f4veril, \u017ee sa mu p\u00e1\u010di spolu\u017eiak, o ktorom si nie je ist\u00fd, \u010di je gej,\u201c hovor\u00ed \u0160ef\u010dovi\u010d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ke\u010f sa rozpr\u00e1vali o tom, \u017ee by chcel chlapec spolu\u017eiakovi vyzna\u0165 l\u00e1sku, \u0160ef\u010dovi\u010d sa ho sna\u017eil pripravova\u0165 na viacero scen\u00e1rov \u2013 vr\u00e1tane odmietnutia. Aj on s\u00e1m za\u017eil, ak\u00e9 to je, zamilova\u0165 sa do niekoho, kto m\u00e1 odli\u0161n\u00fa orient\u00e1ciu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eKe\u010f jeho spolu\u017eiak pl\u00e1novan\u00e9 stretnutie zru\u0161il, klient reagoval tak, \u017ee to chce ukon\u010di\u0165. P\u00fdtal som sa ho, \u010do t\u00fdm mysl\u00ed, nato mi poslal emotikony zbrane a lebky. P\u00edsal som mu o rie\u0161eniach, ako sa s t\u00fdm cel\u00fdm vyrovna\u0165, no potom prestal komunikova\u0165 a u\u017e mi nap\u00edsala len jeho mama.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Po tejto sk\u00fasenosti si dal \u0160ef\u010dovi\u010d na mesiac pauzu od dobrovo\u013en\u00edctva. Nebolo to ale prv\u00fdkr\u00e1t, \u010do si p\u00edsal s t\u00edned\u017eerom so samovra\u017eedn\u00fdmi my\u0161lienkami. Tak\u00e9to sk\u00fasenosti maj\u00fa aj jeho kolegovia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eJa som si v tom veku tie\u017e predstavoval, \u017ee jednoduch\u0161ie by bolo zomrie\u0165, ne\u017e niekomu poveda\u0165, \u017ee som gej,\u201c hovor\u00ed. Naj\u0165a\u017e\u0161ia bola pre\u0148ho z\u00e1kladn\u00e1 \u0161kola, kde svoju identitu skr\u00fdval a vyh\u00fdbal sa aj niektor\u00fdm aktivit\u00e1m, ktor\u00e9 by ho mohli vyzradi\u0165.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Teraz s\u00fa pod\u013ea jeho sk\u00fasenost\u00ed t\u00edned\u017eeri viac v kontakte so svojimi em\u00f3ciami a prekvapuj\u00fa ho odhodlan\u00edm, s ak\u00fdm svoju identitu obhajuj\u00fa doma alebo v \u0161kole. On v tom obdob\u00ed c\u00edtil len strach. U\u013eavilo sa mu a\u017e po coming oute a ako s\u00e1m hovor\u00ed, jeho \u017eivot sa zmenil k lep\u0161iemu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eRodi\u010dia, bu\u010fte k sebe l\u00e1skav\u00ed a prij\u00edmajte svoje deti, nielen ich slov\u00e1, ale aj \u017eivoty,\u201c odkazuje \u0160ef\u010dovi\u010d. \u201eJa som bol na seba zbyto\u010dne ve\u013emi pr\u00edsny a nevedel som si to odpusti\u0165.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bezpe\u010dn\u00fd priestor sa ned\u00e1 tvori\u0165 len cez slov\u00e1<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spr\u00e1va o samovra\u017ede Martina z \u0164ahanoviec zasiahla aj stredo\u0161kolsk\u00fa u\u010dite\u013eku Hanu Botkov\u00fa z bratislavskej zdravotn\u00edckej \u0161koly, ktor\u00e1 h\u013ead\u00e1 sp\u00f4soby, \u010do vie sama spravi\u0165 pre to, aby sa \u017eiaci na \u0161kole c\u00edtili bezpe\u010dne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eNerob\u00edm ni\u010d \u0161peci\u00e1lne,\u201c hovor\u00ed Botkov\u00e1. \u201eK \u013eu\u010fom pristupujem bez hodnotenia, m\u00e1m otvoren\u00e9 o\u010di a \u017eiakov vn\u00edmam a sna\u017e\u00edm sa neprehliada\u0165 ani drobn\u00e9 detaily. Ke\u010f niekoho vid\u00edm na chodbe utiahnut\u00e9ho alebo izolovan\u00e9ho, oslov\u00edm ho \u2013 ale ve\u013emi jemne.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n

U\u017e len ot\u00e1zka \u201eako sa m\u00e1\u0161?\u201c alebo pohladenie pod\u013ea u\u010dite\u013eky m\u00f4\u017eu pom\u00e1ha\u0165. \u017diakom tak d\u00e1va najavo, \u017ee si ich niekto v\u0161\u00edma. D\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e1 je pod\u013ea nej aj r\u00e1znos\u0165, ke\u010f s\u00fa dospel\u00ed svedkami \u0161ikanovania alebo pou\u017e\u00edvania nad\u00e1vok zneva\u017euj\u00facich identitu nejakej men\u0161iny \u010di skupiny. Takou m\u00f4\u017ee by\u0165 napr\u00edklad slovo \u201ebuzerant\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eNesta\u010d\u00ed, ke\u010f u\u010dite\u013e t\u00e9mu otvor\u00ed len na triednickej hodine a za\u010dne v\u0161eobecne hovori\u0165 o tom, \u017ee ak je niekto kv\u00edr, nech sa na\u0148ho obr\u00e1ti,\u201c dop\u013a\u0148a psychologi\u010dka Patr\u00edcia Vesel Ganoczyov\u00e1, ktor\u00e1 p\u00f4sob\u00ed v Univerzitnej nemocnici Louisa Pasteura v Ko\u0161iciach a spolupracuje aj s komunitn\u00fdm a poradensk\u00fdm centrom pre LGBTI+ \u013eud\u00ed Prizma Ko\u0161ice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eJe na n\u00e1s dospel\u00fdch, aby sme skutkami okolo seba vytv\u00e1rali bezpe\u010dn\u00e9 prostredie, a ke\u010f napr\u00edklad prehliadame alebo normalizujeme pou\u017e\u00edvanie takejto nad\u00e1vky, deti potom nemaj\u00fa motiv\u00e1ciu zd\u00f4veri\u0165 sa n\u00e1m, ke\u010f sa ich to naozaj bude t\u00fdka\u0165,\u201c dod\u00e1va.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Po Z\u00e1mockej sa to zhor\u0161ilo<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

O samovra\u017ed\u00e1ch d\u00fahov\u00fdch det\u00ed sa viac hovor\u00ed aj v\u010faka festivalu transrodov\u00fdch \u013eud\u00ed Svet pod\u013ea Gabriela. Zalo\u017eil ho otec transrodov\u00e9ho mlad\u00edka, ktor\u00fd si vzal \u017eivot pre predsudky v spolo\u010dnosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Samovra\u017eedn\u00e9 my\u0161lienky v\u0161ak nesp\u00f4sobuje sexu\u00e1lna orient\u00e1cia alebo transrodovos\u0165. \u201ePramenia z neprijatia a devalv\u00e1cie od najbli\u017e\u0161ieho a \u0161ir\u0161ieho okruhu \u013eud\u00ed, ktor\u00ed s\u00fa pre deti format\u00edvni,\u201c hovor\u00ed Vesel Ganoczyov\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dospel\u00ed \u2013 rodi\u010dia, u\u010ditelia alebo tr\u00e9ner \u2013 pre die\u0165a znamenaj\u00fa cel\u00fd svet, reprezentat\u00edvnu vzorku celej spolo\u010dnosti. Ke\u010f prijatie nen\u00e1jdu u nich, za\u010dn\u00fa str\u00e1ca\u0165 n\u00e1dej, \u017ee m\u00f4\u017eu \u017ei\u0165 \u0161\u0165astne. Nedok\u00e1\u017eu si predstavi\u0165, \u017ee dospej\u00fa a zariadia si \u017eivot pod\u013ea seba.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201e\u017dij\u00fa tu a teraz. V detskom a t\u00edned\u017eerskom veku s\u00fa z\u00e1visl\u00ed od dospel\u00fdch. Ke\u010f sa v nich bezmocnos\u0165 nazbiera do obrovsk\u00fdch rozmerov, m\u00f4\u017eu d\u00f4js\u0165 k takej bolesti a bezn\u00e1deji, \u017ee im prestane d\u00e1va\u0165 zmysel existova\u0165,\u201c dod\u00e1va odborn\u00ed\u010dka.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Deti pod\u013ea nej vn\u00edmaj\u00fa aj politicko-spolo\u010densk\u00fa situ\u00e1ciu a kroky a vyjadrenia politikov, ktor\u00e9 s\u00fa namieren\u00e9 proti d\u00fahovej men\u0161ine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vesel Ganoczyov\u00e1 pracuje nielen s d\u00fahovou ml\u00e1de\u017eou u\u017e jeden\u00e1s\u0165 rokov. Po teroristickom \u00fatoku na Z\u00e1mockej v okt\u00f3bri 2022, ke\u010f \u00fato\u010dn\u00edk zabil dvoch \u013eud\u00ed a jednu osobu zranil, zaznamenala prudk\u00fd n\u00e1rast z\u00e1ujmu klientov.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u010cl\u00e1nok vy\u0161iel aj v Denn\u00edku SME.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Autor: Marek Morav\u010d\u00edk \/ Ilustr\u00e1cia:\u00a0Vikt\u00f3ria Szab\u00f3ov\u00e1 Text sme prv\u00fd raz publikovali v \u010d\u00edsle Jar 2025. Volal sa Martin, poch\u00e1dzal z \u0164ahanoviec na v\u00fdchode Slovenska a ako trin\u00e1s\u0165ro\u010dn\u00fd vo febru\u00e1ri ukon\u010dil svoj \u017eivot skokom pod vlak. Rozhodnutiu pod\u013ea \u013eud\u00ed z jeho okolia predch\u00e1dzalo aj \u0161ikanovanie za jeho orient\u00e1ciu a v\u00fdzor. S podobn\u00fdm pr\u00edpadom z opa\u010dnej strany …<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":4532,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[260],"tags":[266,159,177,505],"class_list":["post-4760","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-reportaze","tag-from-qys","tag-queer-kultura","tag-reportaz","tag-spolocnost"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4760","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4760"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4760\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4801,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4760\/revisions\/4801"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4532"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4760"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4760"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4760"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}