{"id":2295,"date":"2017-07-12T11:40:14","date_gmt":"2017-07-12T09:40:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/qys.sk\/?p=2295"},"modified":"2021-03-18T09:23:46","modified_gmt":"2021-03-18T08:23:46","slug":"roman-samotny-teplaren-cafe-je-bezny-bar-kde-sa-ludia-stretavaju","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/roman-samotny-teplaren-cafe-je-bezny-bar-kde-sa-ludia-stretavaju\/","title":{"rendered":"Roman Samotn\u00fd: Tepl\u00e1re\u0148 Caf\u00e9 je be\u017en\u00fd bar, kde sa \u013eudia stret\u00e1vaj\u00fa"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Autor textu: Andrej Kuruc \/ Foto: \u0160ima M\u00fcller<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Arch\u00edvny text sme prv\u00fd raz publikovali v \u010d\u00edsle Leto 2017<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Roman Samotn\u00fd je absolvent \u017eurnalistiky na Filozofickej fakulte UK. Dvan\u00e1s\u0165 rokov sa venoval pr\u00e1ci v m\u00e9di\u00e1ch, dlh\u00e9 roky p\u00f4sobil ako dramaturg TV JOJ. Popritom za\u010dal pracova\u0165 ako PR mana\u017e\u00e9r Filmov\u00e9ho festivalu inakosti, ktor\u00e9mu je vern\u00fd u\u017e 7 rokov. V\u010faka festivalu sa za\u010dal viac zaobera\u0165 aktivitami pre LGBT komunitu. Je tvorcom platformy Queer Slovakia – pod touto hlavi\u010dkou organizuje queer parties Tepl\u00e1re\u0148, Homomat, Tutti Frutti a \u010fal\u0161ie. Najzn\u00e1mej\u0161ia je party Tepl\u00e1re\u0148, ktor\u00e1 m\u00e1 za sebou u\u017e 5 rokov existencie. Pred dvomi rokmi otvoril aj men\u0161\u00ed komunitn\u00fd bar Tepl\u00e1re\u0148 Caf\u00e9. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u010co si mysl\u00ed\u0161, \u010do m\u00f4\u017ee pom\u00f4c\u0165 mlad\u00fdm chalanom a bab\u00e1m, aby dok\u00e1zali otvorene hovori\u0165 o tom, k\u00fdm s\u00fa? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

D\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 je to, aby ch\u00e1pali, \u017ee v tom nie s\u00fa sami, \u017ee v ich rodine, medzi kamar\u00e1tmi, v meste, v krajine s\u00fa \u013eudia s podobn\u00fdm pr\u00edbehom. Treba, aby bolo po\u010du\u0165 rozpr\u00e1vanie t\u00fdch, ktor\u00ed si coming outom pre\u0161li, aby mlad\u00ed \u013eudia vedeli, ak\u00e9 je skvel\u00e9 \u017ei\u0165 otvorene a slobodne, neskr\u00fdva\u0165 sa, \u017ee im coming out zlep\u0161\u00ed kvalitu \u017eivoty, vz\u0165ahy. A k\u013e\u00fa\u010dov\u00e1 je aj podpora rodiny, ak mama, otec, s\u00farodenci uk\u00e1\u017eu, \u017ee s\u00fa ch\u00e1paj\u00faci a re\u0161pektuj\u00faci, tak daj\u00fa LGBT pr\u00edbuzn\u00fdm obrovsk\u00fd dar, v\u010faka ktor\u00e9mu sa im bude lep\u0161ie d\u00fdcha\u0165 po zvy\u0161ok \u017eivota. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vedie\u0161 tepl\u00fa kaviare\u0148, mysl\u00ed\u0161 si, \u017ee je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9, aby tepl\u00ed \u013eudia mali aj tak\u00fdto priestor, kde sa m\u00f4\u017eu stret\u00e1va\u0165? M\u00f4\u017ee im to u\u013eah\u010di\u0165 aj coming out? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jednozna\u010dne, vn\u00edmam to ako d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 miesto, kde sa m\u00f4\u017eu \u013eudia stret\u00e1va\u0165 tv\u00e1rou v tv\u00e1r, spozn\u00e1va\u0165 sa, vymie\u0148a\u0165 si sk\u00fasenosti. To im umo\u017en\u00ed nabra\u0165 sebad\u00f4veru, zisti\u0165, ak\u00e1 je LGBT komunita pestr\u00e1, pr\u00eds\u0165 o predsudky, ktor\u00e9 ich dusia. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Je \u0165a\u017ek\u00e9 vies\u0165 v Bratislave tepl\u00fd podnik? Pre\u010do je tu tak m\u00e1lo miest, kde aj tepl\u00ed \u013eudia m\u00f4\u017eu cez de\u0148 otvorene spolu zdie\u013ea\u0165 svoj \u010das?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Okolo kaviarne sa vytvorila komunita zauj\u00edmav\u00fdch \u013eudia a je tam \u010dasto ve\u013emi rodinn\u00e1 atmosf\u00e9ra, tak\u017ee mi t\u00e1 pr\u00e1ca prin\u00e1\u0161a rados\u0165. Aj ke\u010f je pravda, \u017ee za\u010diatky boli zlo\u017eit\u00e9, ale to je prirodzen\u00e9 a s\u00e1m som bol trochu naivn\u00fd a bez sk\u00fasenost\u00ed. To, \u017ee v Bratislave je tak m\u00e1lo otvorene queer miest, pod\u013ea m\u0148a s\u00favis\u00ed s mobiln\u00fdmi aplik\u00e1ciami. V minulosti bolo gej barov toti\u017e viac a to bola doba menej prajn\u00e1. \u013dudia maj\u00fa pocit, \u017ee appky im umo\u017enia sa zozn\u00e1mi\u0165 s k\u00fdm chc\u00fa a nemusia ani p\u00e4ty z domu vystr\u010di\u0165. Osobne si mysl\u00edm, \u017ee tento sp\u00f4sob nadv\u00e4zovania nov\u00fdch kontaktov nie je pr\u00e1ve najkvalitnej\u0161\u00ed, je toti\u017e pln\u00fd il\u00fazi\u00ed a frustr\u00e1cie. Pod\u013ea m\u0148a je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 pre ka\u017ed\u00e9ho \u010dloveka nabra\u0165 odvahu a prihov\u00e1ra\u0165 sa \u013eu\u010fom na ulici. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stretol si sa s negat\u00edvnymi reakciami? Nemusia sa b\u00e1\u0165 \u013eudia k tebe chodi\u0165? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ob\u010das sa niekto okoloid\u00faci chichoce, ale to je sk\u00f4r zriedkav\u00e9. U\u017e sme sa stali s\u00fa\u010das\u0165ou koloritu na\u0161ej \u0161tvrte, u\u017e to \u013eudia ber\u00fa tak, \u017ee tam jednoducho patr\u00edme a nejako to ve\u013emi neanalyzuj\u00fa. Ale vn\u00edmam, \u017ee je st\u00e1le ve\u013ea LGBT \u013eud\u00ed, ktor\u00ed maj\u00fa pocit, \u017ee musia nabra\u0165 odvahu, aby vo\u0161li, je to pre nich akoby forma coming outu. Pritom sme v podstate be\u017en\u00fd bar, kde \u013eudia sedia a rozpr\u00e1vaj\u00fa sa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Rob\u00ed\u0161 aj viacer\u00e9 kult\u00fare akcie napr. tepl\u00fa \u010dit\u00e1re\u0148 a \u010fal\u0161ie, m\u00f4\u017ee\u0161 o nich poveda\u0165 viac? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u00e1me pravideln\u00e9 akcie, ktor\u00fdmi sa sna\u017e\u00edme zauja\u0165 r\u00f4zne \u010dasti komunity. Tepl\u00e1\u010cit\u00e1re\u0148 je akcia pre fan\u00fa\u0161ikov literat\u00fary. Teplo na cest\u00e1ch prin\u00e1\u0161a queer cestopisy. Queer Beer je ve\u010der, kedy hr\u00e1 u n\u00e1s DJ. Feriny je ve\u013emi ob\u013e\u00faben\u00fd kv\u00edz. Plus rob\u00edme r\u00f4zne \u010fal\u0161ie akcie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

R\u00e1d pou\u017e\u00edva\u0161 ozna\u010denie tepl\u00ed \u013eudia, je to tak\u00e1 tvoja zna\u010dka\u2026 Pre\u010do pou\u017e\u00edva\u0161 pr\u00e1ve toto slovo, nem\u00e1\u0161 obavy, \u017ee \u013eudia to m\u00f4\u017eu vn\u00edma\u0165 negat\u00edvne? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

V komunite je to be\u017en\u00e9 slovo, ktor\u00e9 nie je vn\u00edman\u00e9 nejako pejorat\u00edvne. Sna\u017e\u00edm sa to spopularizova\u0165, mysl\u00edm si, \u017ee je to fajn slovo, ktor\u00e9 ozna\u010duje cel\u00fa LGBT komunitu. Je to adekv\u00e1tna slovensk\u00e1 n\u00e1hrada napr\u00edklad za skratku LGBT, queer alebo neheterosexu\u00e1l. Jazyk tvor\u00edme v\u0161etci, ktor\u00ed ho pou\u017e\u00edvame a pokojne m\u00f4\u017eeme zmeni\u0165 aj emocion\u00e1lny n\u00e1boj, ktor\u00fd je spojen\u00fd s niektor\u00fdmi v\u00fdrazmi. Tak sa men\u00ed aj samotn\u00e9 vn\u00edmanie t\u00e9my. Podobnou zmenou napr\u00edklad pre\u0161lo anglick\u00e9 queer alebo nemeck\u00e9 Schwul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ak\u00fd bol tvoj coming out a \u010do by si poradil ostatn\u00fdm mlad\u00fdm \u013eu\u010fom, ke\u010f chc\u00fa \u017ei\u0165 pod\u013ea toho, \u010do c\u00edtia? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Som z malej dediny a dospieval som v \u010dase, ke\u010f v m\u00e9di\u00e1ch neboli takmer \u017eiadne inform\u00e1cie o gejoch a lesb\u00e1ch. Bolo to n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e9, mal som pocit, \u017ee \u0161iroko-\u010faleko nikto tak\u00fd ako ja neexistuje. Mal som pocit viny, c\u00edtil som sa zle za to, k\u00fdm som. Ale ako som dospieval, cestoval, spozn\u00e1val nov\u00fdch \u013eud\u00ed, z\u00edskaval nov\u00e9 inform\u00e1cie, tak som si uvedomil, \u017ee moja gejsk\u00e1 orient\u00e1cia je absol\u00fatne v poriadku. Sebaprijatie bolo nesmierne oslobodzuj\u00face, mo\u017enos\u0165 otvorene \u017ei\u0165 to, kto som, mi dodalo rados\u0165 zo \u017eivota. Ve\u013ekou oporou mi bola aj reakcia mamy, ktor\u00e1 cel\u00fd \u010das st\u00e1la pri mne, to bolo ve\u013emi d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9. V tomto smere je ve\u013emi d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 sa nez\u013eakn\u00fa\u0165 a st\u00e1\u0165 si pevne za t\u00fdm, kto ste. Ne\u017ei\u0165 v strachu, ale \u017ei\u0165 naplno a v pravde.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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