{"id":2273,"date":"2017-07-12T10:33:17","date_gmt":"2017-07-12T08:33:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/qys.sk\/?p=2273"},"modified":"2017-07-12T10:33:17","modified_gmt":"2017-07-12T08:33:17","slug":"6-tipov-ako-povedat-rodicom-a-blizkym-ze-som-gej-lesba-bi-alebo-transrodovy-clovek","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/6-tipov-ako-povedat-rodicom-a-blizkym-ze-som-gej-lesba-bi-alebo-transrodovy-clovek\/","title":{"rendered":"6 tipov ako poveda\u0165 rodi\u010dom a bl\u00edzkym, \u017ee som gej, lesba, bi, alebo transrodov\u00fd \u010dlovek"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Autor textu: Andrej Kuruc \/ Foto: Ilustra\u010dn\u00e1 Pixelbay<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Arch\u00edvny text sme prv\u00fd raz publikovali v \u010d\u00edsle Leto 2017.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Bu\u010fte si ist\u00fd, alebo ist\u00e1 <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Ak si nie ste ist\u00fd alebo ist\u00e1, \u010di sa zd\u00f4veri\u0165 alebo nie, vezmite si rad\u0161ej \u010das na premyslenie, ako by ste sa mali spr\u00e1va\u0165 impulz\u00edvne. \u010c\u00edtajte knihy, alebo magaz\u00edny pre LGBT mlad\u00fdch \u013eud\u00ed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pozerajte vide\u00e1 o LGBT veciach, pripojte sa k online komunite, alebo ml\u00e1de\u017en\u00edckej skupine alebo zavolajte na LGBT linku d\u00f4very. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

D\u00f4sledky coming outu m\u00f4\u017eu by\u0165 negat\u00edvne, ak druh\u00ed \u013eudia: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 netoleruj\u00fa rozdiely, \u010di u\u017e z h\u013eadiska statusu (rod, etnicita, soci\u00e1lna trieda), alebo spr\u00e1vania (neakceptuj\u00fa netradi\u010dn\u00e9 presved\u010denia a postoje), <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 vyjadruj\u00fa negat\u00edvne postoje k homosexualite, robia vtipy o LGBT \u013eu\u010foch a nemaj\u00fa LGBT priate\u013eov\/ priate\u013eky, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 uprednost\u0148uj\u00fa autorit\u00e1rske spr\u00e1vanie a nevedia sprac\u00fava\u0165 odch\u00fdlky od svojej be\u017enej \u017eivotnej rutiny alebo od svojich presved\u010den\u00ed, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 u\u017e\u00edvaj\u00fa drogy alebo alkohol, v rodine sa im vyskytla psychick\u00e1 choroba at\u010f.. Ak s\u00fa va\u0161i bl\u00edzki veriaci bu\u010fte pripraven\u00fd, alebo pripraven\u00e1 na argument \u201e\u017ee zhor\u00edte v pekle a budete ve\u010dne zatraten\u00fd, alebo zatraten\u00e1\u201c. Vzdel\u00e1vajte sa a pripravte si jednoduch\u00e9 odpovede na to, \u010do bud\u00fa ich hlavn\u00e9 argumenty. Nemusia porozumie\u0165, \u010do chcete poveda\u0165, alebo s\u00fahlasi\u0165 s vami, ale prinajmen\u0161om bud\u00fa vedie\u0165, \u017ee ste o tom ve\u013ea rozm\u00fd\u0161\u013eali a budete vedie\u0165 ako na nich reagova\u0165 v neskor\u0161\u00edch konverz\u00e1ci\u00e1ch. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Myslite na to, ako za\u010da\u0165 rozhovor. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

To bude zrejme naj\u0165a\u017e\u0161ia \u010das\u0165, preto\u017ee urobi\u0165 prv\u00fd krok je v\u017edy ve\u013ekou v\u00fdzvou. Myslite na to, ako to poviete. V hlase majte pokoj a hovorte len vtedy, ke\u010f v\u00e1m druh\u00e1 osoba venuje pln\u00fa pozornos\u0165. Svoje pocity, \u017ee ste LGBT, vyjadrujte jednozna\u010dne. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Po coming oute s \u013eu\u010fmi komunikujte otvorene, aj ke\u010f je ich reakcia negat\u00edvna. \u201eM\u00e1m nie\u010do, \u010do v\u00e1m potrebujem poveda\u0165, dr\u017eala som to tajomstvo v sebe po dlh\u00fa dobu. C\u00edtim sa pripraven\u00e1 o tom teraz hovori\u0165\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eM\u00e1m nie\u010do na srdci u\u017e dlh\u00fa dobu, aj teraz je pre m\u0148a \u0165a\u017ek\u00e9 o tom hovori\u0165\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201ePotrebujem s vami hovori\u0165 o nie\u010dom, \u010do je pre m\u0148a ve\u013emi d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9. Chcem by\u0165 k v\u00e1m \u00faprimn\u00fd.\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vysvetlite v\u00e1\u0161 poh\u013ead, va\u0161u situ\u00e1ciu s cie\u013eom pom\u00f4c\u0165 lep\u0161ie pochopi\u0165 to rodi\u010dom. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u010c\u00edm viac im pom\u00f4\u017eete pochopi\u0165 v\u00e1s, t\u00fdm lep\u0161ie. Vyzbrojte sa odpove\u010fami pred rozhovorom. Va\u0161i bl\u00edzki bud\u00fa pravdepodobne reagova\u0165 na z\u00e1klade myln\u00fdch inform\u00e1ci\u00ed, m\u00fdtov a predsudkov z\u00edskan\u00fdch o homosexu\u00e1lnej orient\u00e1cii a transrodovej identite po\u010das \u017eivota. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Preto si na\u0161tudujte overen\u00e9 inform\u00e1cie z dobr\u00fdch kn\u00edh, v\u00fdskumov, webstr\u00e1nok, let\u00e1kov, u LGBT organiz\u00e1ci\u00ed. Ide o t\u00e9my, o ktor\u00fdch druh\u00ed \u013eudia vedia m\u00e1lo. Premyslite si, \u010do v\u00e1m druh\u00ed, najm\u00e4 bl\u00edzki \u013eudia, m\u00f4\u017eu poveda\u0165, a pripravte si odpovede a argumenty. Tam n\u00e1jdete ve\u013ea n\u00e1vrhov ako naformulova\u0165 va\u0161e odpovede, \u017ee budete p\u00f4sobi\u0165 ako Einstein. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eJe to pre m\u0148a prirodzen\u00e9. Tak ako pre v\u00e1s je prirodzen\u00e9 by\u0165 heterosexu\u00e1lnymi. Nevybral som si to, som jednoducho tak\u00fd.\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eSom st\u00e1le t\u00e1 ist\u00e1 osoba, ak\u00e1 som bola predt\u00fdm. Rozhodla som sa aj navonok teraz identifikova\u0165 ako lesba, preto\u017ee vn\u00fatorne som sa tak identifikovala u\u017e d\u00e1vno.\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201ePri\u0165ahuj\u00fa ma chlapci aj diev\u010dat\u00e1. Hovor\u00edm v\u00e1m to, lebo c\u00edtim, \u017ee trest\u00e1m seba, ke\u010f tieto pocity potl\u00e1\u010dam a chcem by\u0165 \u00faprimn\u00fd o tom kto som.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eChcem robi\u0165 aktivity, ktor\u00e9 robia diev\u010dat\u00e1. Viac ma zauj\u00edmaj\u00fa a s\u00fa pre m\u0148a prirodzen\u00e9, ale teraz to vyzer\u00e1 neprirodzene, preto\u017ee som chlapec.\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vysvetlite rodi\u010dom, pre\u010do ste sa im predt\u00fdm nezd\u00f4verili. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

To bude ve\u013ek\u00e1 pom\u00f4cka pre nich, aby v\u00e1s lep\u0161ie pochopili. \u201eB\u00e1la som sa, \u017ee ma odmietnete.\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eNa\u0161a spolo\u010dnos\u0165 je tak homof\u00f3bna a cen\u00edm si n\u00e1\u0161 vz\u0165ah tak ve\u013emi.\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eB\u00e1l som sa, \u017ee zni\u010d\u00edm n\u00e1\u0161 vz\u0165ah.\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eNa\u0161e n\u00e1bo\u017eenstvo u\u010d\u00ed, \u017ee by\u0165 gejom je hriech a nevedel som ako sa s t\u00fdm vysporiada\u0165.\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eC\u00edtila som, \u017ee to, \u017ee som diev\u010da m\u00e1m taji\u0165, preto\u017ee spolo\u010dnos\u0165 n\u00e1m hovor\u00ed, \u017ee je to zl\u00e9.\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pode\u013ete sa s va\u0161imi rodi\u010dmi s t\u00fdm ako v\u00e1m m\u00f4\u017eu pom\u00f4c\u0165, ako v\u00e1s m\u00f4\u017eu podpori\u0165. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

St\u00e1le s\u00fa okolo v\u00e1s \u010fal\u0161\u00ed \u013eudia, ktor\u00fdm sa budete chcie\u0165 zd\u00f4veri\u0165 a ich podpora v\u00e1m m\u00f4\u017ee pom\u00f4c\u0165. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eBola by som rada, keby ste venovali viac \u010dasu tomu, aby ste sa nau\u010dili \u010do znamen\u00e1 by\u0165 LGBT.\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eBudem r\u00e1d, ak v\u00e1m budem m\u00f4c\u0165 poveda\u0165 viac o mojich priate\u013eoch, a ako s\u00fa d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00ed pre m\u0148a. Ak sa budete c\u00edti\u0165 pripraven\u00ed, budem r\u00e1d ak sa s nimi stretnete.\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eDostala som t\u00fato kni\u017eku pre v\u00e1s, aby ste si ju pre\u010d\u00edtali, aby ste sa viac dozvedeli. Mala by odpoveda\u0165 na ot\u00e1zky ktor\u00e9 m\u00e1te, tak d\u00fafam, \u017ee si ju pre\u010d\u00edtate.\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eM\u00e1m pre v\u00e1s tento zoznam webov\u00fdch str\u00e1nok, ktor\u00e9 si m\u00f4\u017eete prejs\u0165, aby ste z\u00edskali viac inform\u00e1ci\u00ed. Bude pre m\u0148a ve\u013ea znamena\u0165 ak si na to n\u00e1jdete \u010das.\u201c <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eExistuje podporn\u00e1 skupina pre LGBT \u013eud\u00ed a ich rodiny. M\u00e1m inform\u00e1cie o tom, kde sa stret\u00e1vaj\u00fa, tak\u017ee tam m\u00f4\u017eeme \u00eds\u0165, ke\u010f budete pripraven\u00ed.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pred coming outom rodi\u010dom si urobte cvi\u010denie <\/strong><\/p>

Pracujte so svoj\u00edm strachom a obavami s LGBT priate\u013emi\/priate\u013ekami alebo psychol\u00f3gmi\/psychologi\u010dkami. <\/p>

Nap\u00ed\u0161te si men\u00e1 rodi\u010dov. Potom sp\u00ed\u0161te, \u010do pred ka\u017ed\u00fdm taj\u00edte. Papier rozde\u013ete na dve polovice \u2013 do jednej nap\u00ed\u0161te, \u010do m\u00f4\u017eete coming outom strati\u0165, a do druhej, \u010do m\u00f4\u017eete z\u00edska\u0165. Je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 p\u00edsa\u0165 v\u0161etko, \u010do v\u00e1m pr\u00edde na myse\u013e, necenzurova\u0165 sa. Potom si prejdite v\u0161etky v\u00fdhody a nev\u00fdhody a rozhodnite sa, \u010di to mame, alebo otcovi, alebo obom poveda\u0165. <\/p>

Predstavte si najhor\u0161iu mo\u017en\u00fa reakciu, aby ste boli pripraven\u00fd, alebo pripraven\u00e1. Nap\u00ed\u0161te si, \u010do by ste mu povedali, a napl\u00e1nujte si, akou formou to urob\u00edte. Nap\u00ed\u0161te si, ako chcete, aby rodi\u010d reagoval, \u010d\u00edm sa pozit\u00edvne nalad\u00edte. Nesk\u00f4r po coming oute mu m\u00f4\u017eete svoju predstavu pre\u010d\u00edta\u0165. <\/p>

Pr\u00edklad: \u201eD\u00fafam, \u017ee ma s otcom podpor\u00edte. A \u017ee ma budete milova\u0165. Je to pre m\u0148a ve\u013emi d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9. Sta\u010d\u00ed, ke\u010f mi budete mamou a otcom \u2013 t\u00fdmi ist\u00fdmi \u013eu\u010fmi, ak\u00fdmi ste v\u017edy boli. Ni\u010d in\u00e9 nechcem.\u201c<\/p>

Niektor\u00ed z rodi\u010dov m\u00f4\u017eu by\u0165 z toho mimo, tak sa pripravte, \u017ee budete najprv vystaven\u00fd, alebo vystaven\u00e1 mo\u017en\u00e9mu tichu. In\u00ed v\u00e1s m\u00f4\u017eu vystavi\u0165 \u0165a\u017ek\u00fdm ot\u00e1zkam, tak\u017ee budete musie\u0165 rozm\u00fd\u0161\u013ea\u0165 \u010do poviete na z\u00e1le\u017eitosti ako n\u00e1bo\u017eenstvo, va\u0161e sexu\u00e1lne aktivity, v\u00e1\u0161 zdravotn\u00fd HIV status a va\u0161u ochotu podst\u00fapi\u0165 reparat\u00edvnu terapiu. <\/p>

\u010coko\u013evek sa vyskytne, nech v\u00e1s ute\u0161\u00ed fakt, \u017ee v\u00e4\u010d\u0161ina \u013eud\u00ed sa behom \u010dasu stane viac akceptuj\u00faca a nie je va\u0161a zodpovednos\u0165 zmeni\u0165 t\u00fdch nieko\u013eko, ktor\u00ed by nikdy neotvorili svoje mysle.<\/p>

Inform\u00e1cie v \u010dl\u00e1nku s\u00fa spracovan\u00e9 na z\u00e1klade let\u00e1kov pripraven\u00fdch spolu s PhDr. Hanou Smitkou, PhD. v r\u00e1mci projektu Psychologick\u00e1 podpora LGBT \u013eud\u00ed Iniciat\u00edvy Inakos\u0165 na <\/strong><\/p>

http:\/\/www.homofobia. sk\/rady <\/strong><\/p>

a pod\u013ea <\/strong><\/p>

http:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/ComeOut-to-Your-Parents<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

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Ak si nie ste ist\u00fd alebo ist\u00e1, \u010di sa zd\u00f4veri\u0165 alebo nie, vezmite si rad\u0161ej \u010das na premyslenie, ako by ste sa mali spr\u00e1va\u0165 impulz\u00edvne. \u010c\u00edtajte knihy, alebo magaz\u00edny pre LGBT mlad\u00fdch \u013eud\u00ed. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2274,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,4,5,6,12,13],"tags":[87,135,183],"class_list":["post-2273","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-comingout","category-praca","category-praca-a-skola","category-pribehy-lgbti-ludi","category-tipy","category-viditelnost","tag-kamarati","tag-poradna","tag-rodicia"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2273","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2273"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2273\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2274"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2273"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2273"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/duhovyrok.sk\/qys\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2273"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}